“How much can you know about yourself, if you’ve never been in a fight?”- Tyler Durden
Fight Club is one of the movie that gets you thinking about how you ruined your life for the sake of society. It is the exact representation of how people think about their lives and how they want to increase their so called standard in society. There are certain aspects of Fight Club that we can directly apply to our everyday lifestyle and general thinking.
The Narrator in movie symbolizes the current version of ourselves; someone who simply struggles through life and earns money only to buy things he doesn’t need only to convince himself. There is nothing special or extraordinary about him.
But Tyler Durden is the ultimate fantasy of every ordinary person in the world. He is sexy, strong and independent man who lives by his own rules, and doesn’t care about fake standards of living created by this society.
Every single one of us has those two sides. Tyler represents a successful version of ourselves – how we actually want to be.
“People do it everyday, they talk to themselves… they see themselves as they’d like to be, they don’t have the courage you have, to just run with it.”
We are constantly battling who I am versus who I want to be.
Most of us are in Narrator mode. As a kid we’ve many dreams for our future life. But as we grow up we just want to raise our standard in society by working hard, making money and buy things that we don’t even need. We act,talk and be like a gentlemen just to impress people. In reality, we all are slave of appearances. In between this we all forget what we really want to do.
“We’ve all been raised on television that one day we’d all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very very pissed off.”
At the end, we’re convinced but not happy. We think that this is our purpose of living.
Most people think that they cannot be as cool as Tyler simply because they are not as good-looking or charismatic or smoke cigarettes or fight like him. But In his own words: “All the ways you wish you could be, that’s me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.”
It doesn’t matter what color your skin or hair is, how short or tall you are or whether you’re rich or poor. What matters is your charisma, character, and confidence.If you think of yourself as weak, you will project that in your actions. People will see that, and won’t show you much respect. Because of that, you will feel like an unappreciated outcast. All of this will make you feel angry and powerless, destroying your confidence.
In contrast, if you manage to think of yourself as a strong and powerful individual and act like that, you will walk with pride. People will love the energy you send out and will treat you with respect as the member of Fight Club respects Tyler.
Don’t think your life has been destined to all the shit society called standard. Don’t blame your parents or the time period you’re born or the responsibilities that bulldozed on you. Define yourself by who you are – “nothing”
“You are not the beautiful and unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everything else”
Don’t rush behind being perfect or being complete. Don’t worry about the outcome of your actions. If you’re going to evolve and grow as a creative person, you’re going to make mistakes. In fact, you should start making twice as many mistakes as soon as possible if you want to have an innovative breakthrough.
Make mistakes and let the chips fall where they may.
Don’t worry about everything going according to plan. In fact, if everything’s going according to plan, there’s a good chance nothing remarkable is getting done.
When we talk about fear, risk, mistakes, and losing it all, what are we really afraid of? We are afraid of losing the standard in society by losing the stuff we own. So leave all assumptions of civilization, more importantly material possession.
“It’s only after we’ve lost everything, that we’re free to do anything.”
I’m not saying give all your stuff away or take foolish risks that harm your family or yourself. I’m saying don’t let the stuff you own start to own you to the point that you can’t live the life you want to live and do the things you want to do.
Tyler Durden is a fascinating character, and most people see him as a cool-looking badass who smokes, fights, and drops mad theory about life. But try to look beyond the overly simplistic surface; I urge you to see him as your inspiration to become everything you ever wanted, but were too scared to try.In other words:
“Little by little, you’re just letting yourself become….Tyler Durden.”